It's about 2 in the afternoon, Sabrina, Larry's wife showed up at his office for a surprise late lunch. Larry's cool with it so they get in his truck and head out. While driving down the road his cell phone goes off, Sabrina doesn't see it but he gets nervous as hell and was pissed at himself for forgetting to turn his ringer off. Apprehensively he takes the phone off his hip and sure enough, it's Tracy calling. He's cool though, watch this…
Larry: this is Larry
Tracy: Hey baby
Larry: (as he squeezes a glance at Sabrina, he can see her looking at him) Hey Bro, what's up?
Tracy: Oh she must be with you?
Larry: Yeah man, I left that information back in the office but when my wife and I are done with lunch I will call you and go over it.
Tracy: (knowing the game plays along) Okay Daddy, call me when you're free…she hangs up.
Larry: (ensuring he leaves no clue that it was his side piece continues the conversation... alone) okay bro, yeah I can do that too. (pause) Naw man we'll have all of it together by then. What time is the meeting? (pauses again as if he's getting an answer) Okay then, I'll catch you after lunch.
Real time… this is about how it goes ladies and if you're attentive enough you can catch him as he's lying. Speaking from experience, when that phone rings and it's someone it shouldn't be, a brother gets nervous as hell and tries hard not to show it. But wait! Don’t get it twisted, check this out…
April and Eric are lying in bed when all of a sudden April's phone starts to vibrate from her purse. WTH? Who's calling you at 1130 at night? Taking her time as to get to the phone hoping the vibrating would stop (doesn't it seem like that phone rings forever when it's not supposed to LOL!) she finally answers it. She's nervous as hell 'cause it's Michael, her maintenance man but watch this:
April: um hello
Michael: hey baby can you talk?
April: I'm sorry who?
Michael: okay I get it, I was thinking I'd get your voicemail and wanted to leave a message. I'm sorry baby hope you're not in trouble.
April: its okay sir, the last digit you dialed was off by 1 (she hangs up and as she's storing the phone simultaneously turns her ringer off)
Now when she gets back in bed fellas, if you're attentive enough you will notice a change. Her heart is probably beating a little faster than normal as she tries to regain her composure…that was a close call and she's wondering if the volume on the ear piece wasn’t too high and her husband heard the conversation.
Real Time… The guarding of the cell phone is just another part of all the extra, hard work you have to put in that makes cheating not worth the effort. The crazy thing is…why in the hell would a mug that's a self proclaimed playa/ playette, want a phone anyway. Think about it, most folks that get caught cheating do so behind that damn cell phone.
Here’s another puzzling situation. Why is it that when you're at home your mates phone never seems to ring. However, the minute the two of you are apart you get, "Hold on my mom's calling the other line" or it's my job, or Eric or Sue…you get my drift. Maybe the ringer just doesn't like to work when you're around.
See, I'm just calling it like it is, folks that are out there doing this get mad because they know what I say is true.
Why is it that he could be on the other side of the house but if his cell phone rings you'd swear he was on a starting block and the pistol went off for the 50 yard dash the way he ran to answer it. I mean, he'll come running out of the shower Johnson just swinging and all, trying to beat you to the phone. Or better yet, what's with the phone always being on lock? WTH? Like someone in the house is gonna get it and make some weird phone calls or something. I can only think of one reason for that…you aren't supposed to see what's going on.
That brings me to my last sign of BS. He/she leaves the phone sitting free for your inspection but damn it looks like there wasn't a call made all day. All incoming and outgoing calls are gone…things that make you go, “Hmmm!”
All I'm saying is that it's just not worth it folks, if it's that bad at home then do like that song says, pack your bags and get the hell on. Stop doing this to you and your partner, somebody's gonna get hurt. Having to worry each time your phone rings because you told so and so not to call and they did, is too much and it's just not worth it.
Do you deem it necessary to have to keep your phone locked even while you’re at home? Keeping in mind things are totally different when you're single and or just dating. Your phone is your business, if you're not committed and decide you want to snoop in your "friends" cell phone, aside from breaking their privacy, be prepared to get what you're looking for.
Luv Doc!
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Monday, January 18, 2010
A Little Too Late
Most of my friends know that Brian McKnight is my favorite artist, there’s just something about his music and his choice of lyrics that reels me in. My boss and I were traveling between clients and this song comes on, “A Little Too Late”, immediately she says I like that song but just not the words. There are many times I like a song but the words don’t apply to my life so I don’t give the lyrics much thought I just enjoy the song for what it is. However, when the words do apply to you its more of an emotional experience; be it good or bad.
This song took me back to when I told my wife I wanted a divorce. Even as I type this I can feel the sentiment she expressed over the phone when she finally told me what I wanted to hear, feel and know for so many years. She said, “I love you Robert”. People often say it’s never too late but there can be a time when there is such a moment. When you want something for so long you become used to not getting it from the desired source, you may not be seeking it elsewhere but you know one thing for sure…it’s not coming from the place you need. It always seems as though when you’re finally fed up, the other party wants to wake up and do or say what you want. The problem is, is it really true or are they simply giving you lip service?
Don’t be that person in the relationship that ASSumes your partner knows how much you love them. You can’t take for granted that the person you’re with will always be there. We all have our own way of feeling loved and it should be your purpose to find out what it is that makes your partner feel loved and supply them with all they can stand. Too many times we make the mistake of letting our pride interfere with our emotions or as men feeling like just because we’re a man we can’t express ourselves. For that I say this, anything you “won’t” do someone else is willing to”. Don’t let someone else cherish your jewels.
If forever is what you want let it be known. I told a very close relative of mine just yesterday these very words… when you feel like you want to walk out of the door without telling your spouse you love them, catch yourself and don’t just tell them you love them but open your heart and add a hug and kiss to that…I dare you! People need to stop thinking that love is so much better on the other side and this other person is the real deal. Remember, when you meet someone initially they will always tell you what you want to hear. Just keep in mind that each relationship comes with its own unique set of problems and through love and communication; building a solid foundation based on trust and honesty, you can make a mountain out of a mole hill and overcome any obstacle that stands in your way.
Give them your love…Tell them you’re right where you want to be….Cherish the love the two of you have…Before they are gone!!! Don’t be the one living with regret.
Luv Doc!!
This song took me back to when I told my wife I wanted a divorce. Even as I type this I can feel the sentiment she expressed over the phone when she finally told me what I wanted to hear, feel and know for so many years. She said, “I love you Robert”. People often say it’s never too late but there can be a time when there is such a moment. When you want something for so long you become used to not getting it from the desired source, you may not be seeking it elsewhere but you know one thing for sure…it’s not coming from the place you need. It always seems as though when you’re finally fed up, the other party wants to wake up and do or say what you want. The problem is, is it really true or are they simply giving you lip service?
Don’t be that person in the relationship that ASSumes your partner knows how much you love them. You can’t take for granted that the person you’re with will always be there. We all have our own way of feeling loved and it should be your purpose to find out what it is that makes your partner feel loved and supply them with all they can stand. Too many times we make the mistake of letting our pride interfere with our emotions or as men feeling like just because we’re a man we can’t express ourselves. For that I say this, anything you “won’t” do someone else is willing to”. Don’t let someone else cherish your jewels.
If forever is what you want let it be known. I told a very close relative of mine just yesterday these very words… when you feel like you want to walk out of the door without telling your spouse you love them, catch yourself and don’t just tell them you love them but open your heart and add a hug and kiss to that…I dare you! People need to stop thinking that love is so much better on the other side and this other person is the real deal. Remember, when you meet someone initially they will always tell you what you want to hear. Just keep in mind that each relationship comes with its own unique set of problems and through love and communication; building a solid foundation based on trust and honesty, you can make a mountain out of a mole hill and overcome any obstacle that stands in your way.
Give them your love…Tell them you’re right where you want to be….Cherish the love the two of you have…Before they are gone!!! Don’t be the one living with regret.
Luv Doc!!
Friday, January 15, 2010
What Happened To The Romance?
I recently had dinner with a group of friends; one of the couples had been married some 20 years. I sat in admiration starring at them thinking this would have made 19 years of marriage for me had I done like some couples and fought through the obstacles created by lack of communication. They were such a beautiful couple, both pushing their mid-forties but one glance and you'd never know it. I'd have to give him his props he's a very good looking brother favoring what's his face um…Boris Kodjoe whatever his name is, I'm sure you ladies know who I’m referring to. She's on the other hand, is a very beautiful lady and when I say this it goes beyond her nearly flawless looks but her heart is pure and beauty exudes from the depths of her soul.
I enjoyed our evening and knowing I had to be seated in a meeting by 8 the following morning, I found myself lost in time (thank goodness my boss was there). During our dinner we had great conversation, the music was great, ambiance was as if we were on a vacation of some sort. We discussed a few things and during the conversation the much like the Incredible Hulk, "Luv Doc" came out.
We discussed compliments to our mate well, the lack of. The conversation somehow covered the way women end up cheating. They almost never go looking for it fellas. Typically it's because we failed to acknowledge the new hair style or dress she's leaving the house in. The things she’s trying to do to make you recognize her other than when you feel it’s time to get busy but make no mistake about it, that colleague of hers will surely make up for your shortfall and with pleasure smother her with compliments for you.
It’s been weighing heavily on my heart today the thought of how we so easily become complacent and take for granted that our spouse (partner) will always be there. What about an occasional date? When was the last time you gave flowers just because? When was the last time you told that person just how much you love and appreciate them?
My thoughts aren't directly correlated with my new friends however our topic of discussion did leave me deep in thought. For me I'm the guy that sends flowers to her office most times for no reason at all other than I'm showing my love and or just to make her girlfriends envious of her knowing she's got a man at home that loves the hell out of her. Not just flowers from the corner store either, but flowers with thought, flowers given with love…they make a huge difference.
Fellas as a man there’s absolutely nothing wrong with cooking dinner a couple of nights a week, having her bath ready after she comes home from a hard day of work....candles lit with a nice glass of wine. Meeting her at the door, taking her shoes off, hanging up her coat and massaging her feet I mean she's only been on them all day. And hey, if it’s just you and her, relax her at the door before you pamper her (if you know what I mean). I’m not saying this just to make it sound good but these are things that I've done and I have to tell you, I think I enjoy pampering the woman in my life more than she does receiving the affection.
It's hard to believe that men can get home before their wives yet they wait for her to come through the door with the kids because he didn't get them, groceries, dry cleaning and everything else and won't even attempt to start doing as much as warming some soup. Again....where is the romance? This is why so many men go to bed wondering why she has a headache and he couldn’t get any. She had to come home after a hard day in the office to have to slave over a hot stove, play mommy, clean, iron and we do nothing but get in bed full from the meal she's slaved over trying to feel her up because we want some. Fellas be advised that foreplay starts well before the bedroom. Try giving some assistance with the kids, dinner…the closeness in the kitchen can create anticipation. Most importantly ask her about her day! When you do so be sure to listen and interject in QUALITY conversation. The last thing you want to do is not pay attention and give the wrong reply. Don't ask her how her day was only to tune her out because the game is on.
I started writing this with full intentions of covering both sides of the spectrum being fully aware that you ladies become complacent too. Unfortunately men tend to take things for granted more so than ladies and they really need to read this. If needed ladies, print it out and give it to your man or that man you know who needs it. Ray Parker junior said it best back in the 80’s in a song… " A woman needs love just like you do....she can fool around just like you do. So don't kid yourself into thinking that won't" if you don't know that song you may want to go to YouTube and give it a listen. If you care about your relationship think about it and see what you can do to bring back the excitement. It's not always about the expensive gifts, understand that it's the little things that seem to be remembered first. Make that person feel special; learn to speak their "Love Language" more so learn to perfect the love you give.
Luv Doc
I enjoyed our evening and knowing I had to be seated in a meeting by 8 the following morning, I found myself lost in time (thank goodness my boss was there). During our dinner we had great conversation, the music was great, ambiance was as if we were on a vacation of some sort. We discussed a few things and during the conversation the much like the Incredible Hulk, "Luv Doc" came out.
We discussed compliments to our mate well, the lack of. The conversation somehow covered the way women end up cheating. They almost never go looking for it fellas. Typically it's because we failed to acknowledge the new hair style or dress she's leaving the house in. The things she’s trying to do to make you recognize her other than when you feel it’s time to get busy but make no mistake about it, that colleague of hers will surely make up for your shortfall and with pleasure smother her with compliments for you.
It’s been weighing heavily on my heart today the thought of how we so easily become complacent and take for granted that our spouse (partner) will always be there. What about an occasional date? When was the last time you gave flowers just because? When was the last time you told that person just how much you love and appreciate them?
My thoughts aren't directly correlated with my new friends however our topic of discussion did leave me deep in thought. For me I'm the guy that sends flowers to her office most times for no reason at all other than I'm showing my love and or just to make her girlfriends envious of her knowing she's got a man at home that loves the hell out of her. Not just flowers from the corner store either, but flowers with thought, flowers given with love…they make a huge difference.
Fellas as a man there’s absolutely nothing wrong with cooking dinner a couple of nights a week, having her bath ready after she comes home from a hard day of work....candles lit with a nice glass of wine. Meeting her at the door, taking her shoes off, hanging up her coat and massaging her feet I mean she's only been on them all day. And hey, if it’s just you and her, relax her at the door before you pamper her (if you know what I mean). I’m not saying this just to make it sound good but these are things that I've done and I have to tell you, I think I enjoy pampering the woman in my life more than she does receiving the affection.
It's hard to believe that men can get home before their wives yet they wait for her to come through the door with the kids because he didn't get them, groceries, dry cleaning and everything else and won't even attempt to start doing as much as warming some soup. Again....where is the romance? This is why so many men go to bed wondering why she has a headache and he couldn’t get any. She had to come home after a hard day in the office to have to slave over a hot stove, play mommy, clean, iron and we do nothing but get in bed full from the meal she's slaved over trying to feel her up because we want some. Fellas be advised that foreplay starts well before the bedroom. Try giving some assistance with the kids, dinner…the closeness in the kitchen can create anticipation. Most importantly ask her about her day! When you do so be sure to listen and interject in QUALITY conversation. The last thing you want to do is not pay attention and give the wrong reply. Don't ask her how her day was only to tune her out because the game is on.
I started writing this with full intentions of covering both sides of the spectrum being fully aware that you ladies become complacent too. Unfortunately men tend to take things for granted more so than ladies and they really need to read this. If needed ladies, print it out and give it to your man or that man you know who needs it. Ray Parker junior said it best back in the 80’s in a song… " A woman needs love just like you do....she can fool around just like you do. So don't kid yourself into thinking that won't" if you don't know that song you may want to go to YouTube and give it a listen. If you care about your relationship think about it and see what you can do to bring back the excitement. It's not always about the expensive gifts, understand that it's the little things that seem to be remembered first. Make that person feel special; learn to speak their "Love Language" more so learn to perfect the love you give.
Luv Doc
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