Working Through Things

Have you ever been in a relationship where you either had a disagreement with your partner or found out they did something to hurt your feelings? This is a common situation most couples find themselves in as we all know relationships are a work in progress and no matter how much love is present, things happen. In most cases we talk about the situation, however, because we do love the person we're with, we forgive them (depending on what they did) and continue forward.

But do we really forget what happened? The mistake we make is when we talk about what happened, we never work "through" the incident. Most of us say we forgive but there's a seed planted somewhere in our minds not necessarily intentionally, but it's there because we never came to an amicable conclusion so there's still doubt in our minds. The seed stays there because we failed to detach ourselves completely from the problem. We say we understand and forgive when we truly didn't get a clear understanding from one another. The doubt that created the situation lingers unresolved and we attempt to move forward anyway.

This is where we have to go back to communication, that essential element that keeps love going. It shouldn't matter how long it takes to get to the bottom of why whatever happened took place. Most times the guilty party will hold back the truth trying to preserve the feelings of their partner when in all actuality you're only making it worse. Then the person who's supposed to be understanding still has questions about what happened but for some unforeseen reason, still won't ask failing to get clarity.

That leaves room for issues because the next time something happens or you get mad, the old comes up and there's a snowball effect. Again, you have to work through the issue no matter how small. Never go to bed upset, never make your partner feel as though you're fine when in all actuality you're not. That could be another argument in itself because one of you thought the other was fine, now you're bringing up old stuff.

Work through your issues with an impartial state of mind. Find out why things occurred the way they did. We never want to believe this but perhaps it was something you did or failed to do, remember for every action is a reaction! Take responsibility for yours and fertilize your relationship with communication.

Doc!

Meet Me In My Dreams

This was me taking a shot a poetry writing a letter to Love himself, enjoy...


Here I am again, dreaming… wondering,…

You're out there I feel you.

My heart beats with excitement each time it thinks about you.

Where are you?

I feel your presence yet your face it still a mystery. I go to bed each night lonely,

Waiting for the moment to hold you, to caress you and feel your soft lips pressed against mine.

Meet me in my dreams I pray, as I clutch my pillow tightly

I wish I may… I wish I might… meet you in my dreams tonight

As I rest my lonely soul another day comes to an end without you

Me wondering who you are, where you are

I manage to let out a gentle sigh, I smile, close my eyes real tight

And make love to you all night long,

Meet me in my dreams

Love, wherever you are, whoever you are, until we meet…I love you.